In our society, the stigma thrown at a divorcee can even kill
the person pushing him or her to severe depression. If it is a woman, then
there is no end to her misery. Although she might be victim, but people
sentence her to social outcast making her feel as if she is the culprit.
Recently, I met a young woman who got divorced a year back
and presently residing alone with her mom.
While divorce itself is a traumatized process, she shared her biggest
challenge post-divorce was her lost self-esteem. It is natural that when things in life fall
apart; you feel as if it was you who was at fault, there is something lacking
in you, as if you are unwanted. To further fuel such damaging emotions and
thoughts; blames of her relatives and acquaintances were working like slow
poison on her.
Day by day she was losing confidence, she stopped going out
or even meeting people. She built a cocoon around her. This however started
taking toll on her professional life as well.
Her best friend referred her Exquisite, my Image Management
Company. It took me some time to make
her open up and share the things she loves to do. I educated her to have a positive affirmation about her life.
My
focus was more on counseling her to let go of the past and start loving herself. Professionally she was
brilliant, so I made her acknowledge
her strengths. This helped her to rebuild her lost self-confidence.
She learnt how to deal
with people and their upsetting remarks, with much grit. I guided her how to
work with denial and acceptance, avoid escape routes and most important to
express her feelings.
It just a matter of couple of months, she is a new person
now. Today she laughs her heart out, goes out and meets people, makes new friends and shines
professionally too. She is a friend for life now.
Work on yourself to get back your lost self-esteem. Your inner strengths can make you champion overcoming
all odds!
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